I began to identify what was drawing his attention away from me and the discussion and I blocked those influences, recognizing that they were female in their orientation. It was amazing what happened. When I blocked the influences his responses were spiritually more powerful and significant to the point where I was able to witness his capacity for great wisdom.
I broached the theme of love as a game today. We discussed this for awhile. Then I recognized that there were several beautiful woman sitting behind and across from us who were making the advances to him. I began to speak to them with my mind and reminding them that it was my time with him and that they should regard it. I kept getting this very strong impulse that I needed to say "I have to leave now. I hope you don't mind." I continued to speak with these women in my mind so that I could conclude my lunch with my friend and leave properly with him. We were able to but it opened an awareness I had not studied to this extent before.
Later that day I noticed a woman leave a magazine titled, "Self" on the elliptical machine in front of me at the fitness center. When I completed my workout I picked up the magazine and carried it to the women's locker room lounge. I began to peruse it and felt a lot of sorrow. Self in my religious studies indicates great awareness of the soul and its relationship with life. This magazine was giving the news of what life is for women today which was very clearly related to how women can support or win men. Everything from how to dress, the features on food and keeping thin, etc. were oriented to this goal.
I knew the fault isn't necessarily men or women but a need to restructure the socialization of our genders from early years forward so that women have the opportunity to develop the Self religiously or wholesomely in secular circles and men have the opportunity to see women in that light and honor them as equals to the equation. Women need not battle for the attention with men to the disregard of formal engagements and men need not be so taken that they are helpless to the women's advances.
Love is really not a game. It is a very formal process of development between two people that requires the rules remain good from the very beginning (this doesn't signify that you cannot have fun sexually or socially, just be fair). This is the best assurance of a good and healthy course in a relationship. It is almost an insurance policy for every woman and man.