When I communicate with others, however, I often relate in a male identity -- not so much with gestures or appearance -- but in a character that is strong and that exhibits more male qualities of fortitude, confidence and care. This has never been a problem in the social circles I keep. Also, my career has mostly been in the company of strong, established men. They have been my blessed examples for most of my life.
Having the unique ability to participate in both identities I recognize a concern in gender relations today between men and women. I notice that female energy (also divinely created) requires considerable change or commitment on the part of male identity in order to engage with each other substantially. This would require that many men recognize female authority and embrace it. This may require that they 'humble' themselves to live with a woman and moderate their 'might' or authority to allow for female authority to participate equally. Such equal participation does not sublimate the male authority but it balances life. It makes life healthier and more functional. I think our society has lost this and many men do not want to sacrifice their 'male' though this humility is what has always been expected of men in order to sustain life well.
Such a view is wholly supported by our religions. Though man has been granted ultimate authority, man is not granted commanding authority over the woman. This is not a marriage when the man has to 'control' or 'command' a wife's view. The need to listen and embrace female energy and power is essential. The need to revive as gentlemen is what female energy can contribute. This has been largely lost in many social circles.
In the Greek marriages both couples are adorned with crowns that are tied together. The crowns are not disparate. They are identically equal. This can be interpreted to symbolize a spiritual equivalence in the union which may say something about how men and women can be together in a happy and balanced union.